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Soul Sister: Best-selling author Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love) opens up about her new found emotional health and best-selling new book, The Signature of All Things.

Oct 30, 2013 03:20PM ● By Susan Bloom

With the release of her 2006 memoir Eat, Pray, Love, the world got to know author Elizabeth Gilbert and the post-divorce year she spent searching for personal truths and new love in Italy’s trattorias, India’s ashrams and Bali’s lush gardens. A #1 New York Times bestseller that sold over 10 million copies and was translated into more than 30 languages, the book landed Gilbert a spot on Time Magazine’s list of the world’s 100 most influential people and was made into a 2010 movie starring Julia Roberts and Javier Bardem. Gilbert continued to forge new inroads with readers in her 2010 sequel, Committed, as she explored the convention of marriage, both culturally and from her own experience, as she prepared to wed the Brazilian businessman she fell in love with in Bali. Through her honest prose, Gilbert bared her soul as she navigated the delicate balance between relationships and personal fulfillment.

     A Connecticut native who now lives in Frenchtown, NJ, where she owns the Two Buttons eclectic home décor shop, the author has released her sixth book, The Signature of All Things. We recently sat down with Gilbert, 44, to discuss how she’s grown since her Eat, Pray, Love experience and the advice she offers readers for achieving greater emotional health.

 

What are some of the lessons you learned about yourself following the experiences you chronicled in Eat, Pray, Love and Committed?”

I think the writing of those two books helped me enormously just to know myself.  I spent my twenties and early thirties just flinging myself at life in such wild and experimental ways, and it was only after a complete breakdown that I finally stopped and faced myself. I guess I had hit that wall we all eventually run into, the one with the graffiti on it that reads: “You are the common denominator in all your life’s problems, lady!”  It was painful and exhausting to finally start to pick that reality apart and see where my own destructive behaviors kept bringing me the same troubles again and again — both in my own life and in the life of others. I don’t think I could have become an adult if I hadn’t set aside the time, alone, to finally start to sort all that out. And I certainly would have had no business getting married until I’d really recognized the roots of my own suffering. Without that recognition, I would have continued to trade out partners forever, always looking for the perfect match who would somehow complete me. It wasn’t until I completed myself that I was ready to embark upon a relationship again.

 

How do you feel you’ve achieved a healthier and more balanced lifestyle in the last several years?
OK, I have a confession! Over the last 10 years, I’ve grown really averse to the word “balance” — only because I think it’s become yet another word that we now use to beat ourselves up and punish ourselves with. We’ve all been trained that we must seek balance in all regards, which comes dangerously close to sounding at times like “perfect.” I’m not sure I’ve ever met a perfectly balanced person — and if I did, I’m not sure I would want to be friends with her! To live is to fall in and out of balance constantly; this is the human universal. We exist on a slippery, spinning, unstable planet and our minds are often slippery, spinning, unstable neighborhoods. We achieve balance for periods of time, and then we teeter and totter and lose ourselves and tumble...and then try again. I would hate for somebody to abuse herself because her life hasn’t reached that point of perfect equilibrium. That said, I do love the word “healthy,” which I believe includes a healthy sense of self-forgiveness for the times we fall short.

 

Through the publication of Eat, Pray, Love and Committed, you’ve inspired readers to become more independent, move on from regressive behaviors and relationships and find that which truly drives them. Any tips for readers as it relates to letting go and identifying and pursuing the life they’re meant to live?

The question I ask people when they come to me for advice is, “When was the last time you were on the trail?” Generally, they understand my question immediately and can usually give an exact date. When was the last time you truly felt like you were walking your own path, following your own compass?  What happened between then and now? How far away from your trail have you drifted? Do you think you could find it again?  Would you ever allow yourself permission to seek it? I can never know the answers to these questions — only the person herself can know. But I love stories of people rediscovering their trail.

 

Your new book, The Signature of All Things, was released this October to rave reviews. Anything you’d like to share about the book or how the experience of writing it was the same or different for you relative to that of Eat, Pray, Love?

It’s a historical novel about a fictitious female botanical explorer and her adventures in the world of science, love, intellect, and travel. I worked on it for four years and it contains my entire heart. My readers will see all of my old favorite themes in there — unconventional women’s lives, passion, travel, curiosity and redemption. I’m excited for it to be out!

 

Finally, how do you feel about where you are in your own personal journey and do you have any final tips to help readers enhance their emotional health?

There’s no doubt that I’m a far healthier person after Eat, Pray, Love than I was before; I’m less inclined to injure myself through too many excesses (emotional or otherwise), and when I do slip up, I’ve learned how to be more gentle and forgiving of myself. I think the best we can hope for is a life where we harm ourselves and others as little as possible — to me, that’s health.

 

Freelancer Susan Bloom writes for New Jersey’s Asbury Park Press, New Jersey Monthly Magazine and USA Today and specializes in topics related to nutrition, fitness and healthy lifestyles.